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Vacation Adventures

It was not a good night. I had difficulty going to sleep. I had to close the window to block the sound of the neighbors, but then my room was like a sauna. I finally dozed off, only to be awakened at 2AM because the dogs were snoring so loudly. I took a good 10 minutes of fumbling around to locate my earplugs and by then I was so annoyed that sleep was troublesome. I so wanted to be rested for this day, but I will have to make the best of it.
I get up before my alarm and make a double cup of instant coffee. It is going to be a beautiful day, we are going to visit Montreal and I am determined to enjoy it. I tell the kids that I am going for a shot run which will delay our departure, but I need to shake my bad night off and soak up the happy sun. I have always wanted to see Montreal, though I had hoped that it would be a trip that Anthony and I would take together.  Unfortunately that is not the case, but we have the opportunity and we are going.
We leave mid-morning and on the way I call and add the international data plan to my phone because I am pretty sure I will need directions or information at some point. We have brief moment of pause when the border guard seems to grill us a bit more than expected. Perhaps he thinks I am abducting my daughter because her last name is different from mine? I cannot be the only remarried parent to cross the border with her children. I am surprised when he asks me point blank where their dad is and why he is not with me. I don’t think he is expecting the answer that my husband is military serving in Afghanistan, but it shuts him up and we move on. We manage to get safely to our destination though it is no small feat since my husband tells me I am a terrible navigator and I am trying to drive and navigate at the same time. The kids are not much help.
We walk through downtown and visit the planetarium; Elijah’s choice of course. I think I enjoy the show about Saturn more than either of the kids do. Then we head down to Old Montreal on the water. We wander the cobblestone streets, eat Rolo candy ice cream cones, take lots of pictures, gape at yachts in the harbor and delightedly watch the street performers. Elijah could watch the man juggling and doing tricks all day. He is so like his father!

We are happy and exhausted; we grab a quick dinner and head back to our temporary home. For some reason, the border guard coming back into the country seems to ask lots of questions also. What specifically did we do while in Montreal? I list our itinerary and he seems satisfied, but I wonder if I look suspiciously like a terrorist and I just don’t know it.
I am so glad we decided to go and I am so proud of what we were able to do. We navigated with no map and signs in a foreign language, drove through a crowded city without hitting any pedestrians, found our way to all of our destinations without getting lost and had a great time.

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Happy Birthday!

Today was my husband’s birthday. It is very tricky to celebrate a birthday form 7,000 miles away with an 8 1/2 hour time difference, but we managed admirably. The night before I posted on my military spouses Facebook group that Anthony’s birthday was coming and could they pass the word on to their husbands. That effort was apparently successful as he told me that a few of the guys treated him to lunch at the mess hall. Not the Ritz I know, but it was the thought that counts.

He just by amazing coincidence received the box of birthday presents I had mailed the week before. He was very excited about the cards, framed picture, books and the candy and cookies of course. In addition, he received a couple of other gifts via email gift certificates and is already spending them!

We were able to finally get Facebook chat to work and communicated for some time catching up and celebrating his birthday virtually. It was a pleasant, rather nicer than expected day.

Later that evening the kids and I decided to go out to dinner and to the beach to celebrate “for him.” We had a nice dinner, walked on the beach, took pictures and rode some rides at the little amusement park there. It was nice until I got sick on the Ferris wheel and was ill for the rest of the night. I don’t do rides, but Elijah wanted me to take daddy’s place and so I reluctantly agreed. For future reference, not a good plan…

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Happy Birthday America

Today was actually much more challenging than the last few. It was so very frustrating to be celebrating our nation’s patriotic birthday without my husband. I knew he was training in Germany and would not get the day off for a picnic, parade or fireworks. He had to leave his family to serve his country and it seems many times that its citizens forget the sacrifices he makes for them and the loneliness that we are living with. I am so proud of him that I could just burst. I find myself crying and smiling at the same time and still it feels right somehow.

It’s just Elijah and I today. I make the coffee and shuffle out to get the get the Sunday morning paper in my bathrobe. I just love the quiet, luxury of a leisurely Sunday morning. When I get to spend it outside, it’s almost magical. I miss Anthony coming back from his Sunday run and enjoying the paper with me. I miss our weekly couple time while the kids are still sleeping and there are no work pressures to intrude. There is more free time on Sundays, so I know these will be the hardest for me to bear.

We went to a nearby state park for a picnic with family and friends which was a nice diversion for a few hours. I could sense Elijah was feeling a bit downhearted and I really found myself craving solitude so we returned home and swam in the pool, just the two of us. We ate dinner by ourselves on the back deck and tried to figure out what to do with our evening. As it happens a neighbor called and invited us to go see some fireworks in a nearby town, but for some reason I just didn’t feel like being social. I encouraged Elijah to go with them however and even though he seemed torn, he accepted. I suspected that he might be feeling guilty for leaving me and I realized that I need to be vigilant that he does not feel responsible for me. I watched the fireworks on TV and reflected back on the last few days. I am concerned about Elijah’s frequent periods of withdrawal. Of course he is sad and lonely and has bouts of melancholy, but I am a bit worried about depression am now on high alert. No word from Anthony today.

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